I don’t have a husband anymore. But I’ve had to explain to my kids why they have to help more around the house. For a long time I didn’t understand why they would complain (even though they got in trouble for that). We finally sat down and I explained in detail what I was doing all day while on the computer, and how much mental energy went into it. Suddenly a light bulb went off. They finally understood why I needed them to pitch in more than they used to.